My "Conscious Uncoupling"

Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin have made this phrase a household word, or words.  They are not just divorcing but instead they are also having a CU, "Conscious Uncoupling".

A "conscious uncoupling is the ability to understand that every irritation and argument [within a marriage] was a signal to look inside ourselves and identify a negative internal object that needed healing," they write. "From this perspective, there are no bad guys, just two people," they say, expanding on the blame-free, "it's about people as individuals, not just the relationship" theory.

So I have decided that it is about time I had my very own CU (conscious uncoupling). Before you post on fb that I am now getting a divorce and my hot husband is FINALLY  back on the market, let me be more specific (did I get anyone - hehe??). I need an conscious uncoupling, not from Steve, we are better than ever, but from food, specifically from too much food and too much of the wrong food.

Mason Dave, or was that Dave Mason, sang it well - I think this is from the 70's?

So let's leave it alone 'cause we can't see eye to eye.
There ain't no good guy, there ain't no bad guy,
There's only you and me and we just disagree.
 

So yes, food, and especially bad food stuff, let's leave it alone.  Food I love you but we are going in different directions here and we can't see eye to eye.

 

I'm not saying it's you - there is nothing wrong with you.  But it's not me either. There is no good guy or bad guy here.  We are both decent and lovable but together we are a wreck.

 

We really just disagree and I've wanted to tell you for a long time, I need my space.

 

I fell off the wagon and into the dip bowl. I have only gained back a few pounds in weight but unfortunately the real gain is in the old feelings, the self doubt, the fear, the despair and did I mention self doubt?  I guess its easier to return to an old lover than to fight for the new love sometimes. 

 

Ouch.  Freakin - can I get an amen or atta boy for putting that out there?  I'm gonna say it one more time because it bears repeating!  SOMETIMES IT IS EASIER TO RETURN TO THE OLD LOVER THAN TO FIGHT FOR NEW LOVE.   Someone ought to shout.  Its what keeps us in the hole. The return to what we knew... the fear, the drudgery and pain of change on one hand and the laziness, the apathy and the comfort of what is familiar on the other. Both lovers have their reward but one is a good reward and one is bad.  Am I blind or just stupid?  Neither, because that old lover is a sheep in wolves clothing and I'm not the first ol' gal he has fooled.

 

So anyway, I heard this week that improvement equals change.  Well that's just lovely, I can't improve without change can I????  That is bad news. 

 

But here I am, announcing my uncoupling and the change that I know I must make and want to make.  I will find the energy somewhere to focus on disentangling myself from that old love, chips, dips and grease, that is abusive and no good for me  and when I do I will run again to embrace the new love.  He brings good to my life in the form of exercise, broccoli and lean meat. Plus at the end of the day he fills me with warm fuzzies like self-worth, pride, confidence and feeling good and healthy.  DUH! 

 

I never thought I would share anything with Gwyneth but hey, we are in this together girl.  I am gonna unravel this dysfunctional union and seek out the newer, healthier relationship, one day at time, one hour at a time and one decision at a time...consciously uncoupling from a relationship that I once cherished but really need to let go. It's time.

Someone hand me a tissue please.

 

That's all ~ Thanks Y'all